The Fairest of them All

You say thunder thighs

Like they’re bad

Look at stretch marks

Like they’re scars

You throw around skinny

Like it’s a colour

And wince at plump

Like it’s a curse

For years, I was driven

By what I saw in the mirror

It’s high time

Don’t you think

For the mirror to mould into me?

Because, in the end

Even the fairest of them all

Was a mere fairytale

While

I’m a woman

Strong and lush

There’s more to me

Than a pound of flesh.

Hello, all of you amazing people! If you’ve stuck around this blog for some time, you’d recall I did a series on mental health awareness last May, post which I’d emphasized on the importance of wellness and health, both in mind and body (Those who are new to the blog and interested in reading the posts, please click here). I’d also shown how they were interconnected. Some of you may also be aware that I spent 2017 getting into shape. For that, I didn’t crash diet, kill myself with rigorous workout or obsess over the weighing scale. What I did do, however, was completely overhaul my lifestyle. Now, I eat healthy, drink healthy and do just enough to stay fit. My body’s shape is immaterial to me in the face of my body’s health. Can you guess what I learnt over the year though? Once you stop obsessing and start accepting, you become happier and healthier. While I’m a staunch advocate of equal love for all sizes, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong in losing weight or gaining some. What I am saying is to not let the weight define your self worth. I’ve come to realise, the more I lived healthily, the happier I was inside, the more it projected on the outside. More than a few people have told me I’ve started glowing these days. It’s definitely not because of a new skin care regime. It’s not even that my skin is actually glowing. It’s just a stark contrast to the depressed skin of earlier. When I felt ugly within, my skin, my glow, my happiness died a little outside. Now, when I feel healthier, so does my outward self. Hence, find a wellness goal, not just a fitness one. Be fit, be healthy, be well. Take care of your body as well as your mind. After all, that’s all we really own in this world, don’t we?

P.S.- For anyone struggling with weight or mental health issues, my door’s always open. I’m no expert but I will listen to you. I will hear you. I will provide a shoulder and I will do my best to get you out of whatever is ailing you to the best of my capacity. Sometimes, all we need is to find acceptance in a friendly soul to be able to find the same within. And that, my friends, is the first step to getting better. You know where to reach me!

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27 thoughts on “The Fairest of them All

  1. Beautiful. And also you’re such a kind and human soul for sharing and offering your time to be open for people that needs to be helped or a person to talk. Many of the fatal decisions could be stopped just with a warm talk and deep talk.
    Congratulations.πŸŽ‰

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    1. Hey, thank you. So pleased and humbled that you liked this. It’s so great that you’re concentrating on what matters the most! I’ve received a couple of emails asking me to trace out my journey or give pointers on taking mind and body, both, along on a healthy journey. Would you be interested in reading if I do write such a post?

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  2. Reblogged this on Falling Star Burning Brightly and commented:

    It doesn’t matter how one looks on the outside old or young.

    But what is on the inside and it’s the eyes that tell the tale.

    If eyes don’t glow the heart is cold or dead.

    For man or woman can only glow from within of the heart is alive and warm.

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  3. I am glad I can reach you through your blog!πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€— Such a lovely poem Varnika!! Flawless and spectacular!!
    Inside is always that matters.. and you are just perfect.. It is said that you had to go through a phase so tough, but I am glad you didn’t succumb and transformed like an angel!
    Keep writing your amazing poems.. I guess I am addicted to them πŸ˜ŠπŸ€—πŸ˜€β€οΈπŸ˜

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  4. Beautiful poem and much beautiful thought. Stick to a wellness regime than the fitness alone. You are right in saying its always the inner beauty that glows and brings that confidence to our body and soul. Outside beauty is only a coating which eventually starts peeing off. Stay beautiful Varnika. You are a beautiful person inside and out. and I’ll come back to read your series on mental wellness cause I joined the community after May I have missed reading that series.

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    1. Thank you! I’m so glad you agree. Your kind words toward me are, in fact, a testament to the beautiful soul you are. Makes me really happy that a young man is being brought up by a woman and mother like you. Thank you for all your love, support, encouragement and kindness. I am never able to thank you enough. I really hope you’re able to sense it though :). Stay beautiful, you amazing woman! πŸ’•
      I’d love to know what you think of the series. πŸ™‚

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  5. Beautiful poem! And an inspiring post 😊
    It’s good that you’re in a happier place!
    I absolutely agree with your opinion on eating healthy and to not let the mirror define you.

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